Friday Fun Day!

First things first I got a new nameplate at work today:

Yes that is a box of candy. (No they aren’t calling me fat ha ha…its ok to laugh when I make those jokes about myself) The chefs have been calling me DOTS since I started working here. Apparently Misty was not southern enough for them and Dottie was…so i became Dottie later to become dots! and here is my new nameplate!  From now on I will be handing out an individual dot as my business card!

Tomorrow officially starts break week at work! Of course I’ll miss the students but I’ll love being able to play my music as loud as I want in the library AND work uninterrupted! Also, I get to go back to Kentucky for a day. Bourbon trail + Chefs + Me + KENTUCKY = hilarious time!

While cleaning the library today I found a book that will probably become my best friend in the next week … “Hungry Girl 200 under 200: 200 recipes under 200 Calories” Really really excited to try some of this stuff out..maybe at our dinner on Thursday.

I decided to put my iTunes on shuffle hoping to come up with a musical genius post like a couple of weeks ago with the whole 90’s music…no such luck BUT i did come across some fabulous Travis Tritt. How can you not love this???And look at the amazing sparkly jacket he has on. Thank you Travis Tritt. and Ashley this is dedicated to you 🙂

 

I say this a lot and I mean it. Thank you to all my friends … I am beyond blessed.

As you can tell its a fabulous day here in Indy and at work! Lets hope for a continued success through the weekend! Have a safe and happy weekend everyone!

Authenticity.

Yesterday I heard a sermon on authenticity and the idea brought up some thoughts I’d been having lately. The definition for authenticity is the quality of being authentic; genuineness.  I think most of us want to authentic. Recently though I have found myself being pushed and pulled away from who I am so that I might acquire certain things. What happened though is that not being me has caused quite a bit more trouble than if I was being me the whole time. The situations have brought up a whole new realization to who I am and what I’m about. I have this conviction to be genuine with everyone. To be open/honest and upfront with everyone. I might be trusting and honest to a fault but it’s who I am and I’ve decided I shouldn’t make apologies for that trait. Like most people have this feeling of want and validation but I’m realizing now that I do not need validation at the sake of me losing my genuineness. Its the most refreshing thought and relization that being me is enough.

And because every post needs some music and this is one of the most authentic artist out now.  Also, this song has been a staple in my life for the past 5 months. So take a listen.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAc83CF8Ejk&ob=av2n

Age and Big Moments.

So many times in the past couple weeks the idea of age has come up. For one I bring it up because I’m going to be 25 this year and as I’ve said I’m semi terrified. I have this idea that I’m supposed to be at a certain point in my life at this age. That I should be started in a good career. Moving closer to marriage and settling down. I am at none of these points. I have no serious relationship, don’t even have a full time job and while I am ready to settle down I am in no way in a rush to do so. Where does this leave me…because I’m pretty sure it throws off the plans I had for the rest of my life. All my plans seemed to be based on age and if I hadn’t reached these by that age I wasn’t successful. What I am coming to realize though is aging without reaching these ideas isn’t such a bad thing. I couldn’t imagine being married right now. I’ve been able to do things I never would have if I was married right now. I realize that my ideas where based on what I perceived to be the norm that it’s what every girl does. I focused too much on that instead of everyone has a different life and different experience. What’s good for one doesn’t work for the other. Turning 25 doesn’t seem so scary anymore, I don’t wish to be younger. I have had a wonderful life so far but there are parts of it I am fine not reliving. That I am getting wiser and starting to make better choices in my life. I’m learning about who I am really and what I want in my life. I’m starting to realize the people in my life who contribute to me as a person and those that take. I’m learning my boundaries. Then I came across this article yesterday “5 Reasons Getting Older Rules” With every point I could think of something I was glad I made it through, something that I didn’t have to do again, was freed to live the way a 24 year old should. It reminded me that for some people getting older is better and I’m fully realizing that is me. I don’t want to be scared of the aging process. I want to embrace it. I don’t want to look back and say I lived my 20’s in the past. Wishing for a better day or waiting for my big moment. As one of my all time favorite authors Shauna Niequist points out in her book Cold Tangerines “Life is a collection of a million, billion moments, tiny little moments and choices, like a handful of luminous, glowing pearls.” I’m learning to appreciate all the small moments and not thinking that the next one will be the big thing I’ve been waiting for all my life. Because just 7 years ago I would have told you graduating from college would be the big moment in my life. The moment everything would have changed. Truthfully, things did change I had no more homework and I went on a cruise. Then I entered what people call the ‘real world’ which I’ve always hated because in college I lived in the real world. I just had different priorities. No big moment, no joyous occasion happened after college. But I can look back and remember a multitude of small moments that are just as important. Slowly, each ones of these moments, occasions changed my life. I’m a firm believer in God putting people and things in our lives at certain moments. I can see that clearly with a couple people and moments in my past. I’m thankful for these moments. At the time I obviously didn’t know how much they would mean but today I remember them fondly. And its definitely a “handful of luminous, glowing pearls.” So with this handful of pearls I welcome this time and age in my life. And I’m looking forward to what else awaits in my future!

 

The Joy of Friendship.

There are few things I enjoy more in my life than time with my friends. The only thing that compares is family time. Since I don’t live near my family my friends become family. They are the people who are able to read me like a book. Tell when I’m lying if I say I’m fine. They know the words to cheer me up and tell me what I need to hear even if I don’t want to hear it. I feel incredibly blessed to have the people I do in my life.

I’m so very lucky to have made great friends at all the ‘stops’ in my life. I have a handful of people in my life that I know I can call when all hell breaks loose and I feel like I’m going to break. They will pick up the phone and stop what they are doing to tell me everything will be fine. When my house burned down the first thing I thought after finding out my dad was fine was to call my friends. I needed support. I needed a sense of normalcy. Unfortunately I was a blubbering mess because my house was on fire and it would be an hour before I could get home. I called a girl who has been one of my best friends from the age of 5, she will lie and tell you she wasn’t at my 5th birthday party but she was, I can’t even remember what I said to her but I remember her just talking to me. Nothing spectacular but knowing she was listening and cared mattered. (although since I was a blubbering mess she thought I said my dad had died at first but once we got the confusion out-of-the-way … a house burning down didn’t seem so bad) We’ve been friends for so long we can go months without talking and catch up like its nothing. I know there is nothing that can cause us not to be friends. She is my childhood best friend and continues until this days. Here’s to 20 years of friendship!

When my parents were going through their divorce and I found myself in phone fights with them my roommate at the time, but more importantly one of the best friends I’ve met in my life, would just sit and listen to me cry about it. She gave what advice she could and made sure I knew she was there for me. One of the things I love about our friendship is we’ve been through so much together. Between losing loved ones, houses and sometimes our sanity over boys we’ve always found a way to support each other. We push each other to be the best people we can be and moving out of our townhouse and eventually to a new city is one of the hardest things I’ve done. I miss seeing her daily but we talk all the time. I can’t remember not knowing her. I don’t want to imagine my life without her as a friend.

Indianapolis has provided me with many friendships.

It first opened the door for my friendship with Brittany, whom is my go to call when funny/awkward situations happen in my life. She truly appreciates them and has probably also encountered the same thing. We both went to Butler but really became friends when we worked together back in Kentucky. That summer is one of my favorites…ever. Working with your friends is the best, although I’m not sure how much working we really did.

Lastly there are 2 girls who today have made a huge impact on my life. They made my transition to Indianapolis much smoother than it could have been. Unfortunately one of them had to move out for me to move in but the things happening in her life bring me so much joy its unbelievable. She is marrying a wonderful man and I have the honor of being in the wedding. Then there is my roommate. My crazy roommate who reminds me to find the joy in life every day. She is the most caring, non-judgmental person I’ve ever met. She inspires me daily to be a better person.  When I was away from Indy for 3 years these 2 girls were always there for me. I knew their friendship would be life long and since I’ve moved back they have been great cheerleaders in my life. This week has been a tough one at some point for all three of us. I found that we dug in deep and brought out the best in each other. That I would stop my life to help either of them. That I would put aside my own views to make sure they were happy and try to see their point. They have in turn encouraged me to not be so hard on myself. They’ve boosted my confidence and reminded me that good things are in store.

I can only hope that everyone has at least one friend like these girls in my life and believe me there are a few more I could write about. I don’t know what I did to deserve to have these people in my life but I am thankful. I’m thankful the lessons they teach me and for the woman they are helping shape me to be with their friendship.

Grateful.

 

Dance.

I love any type of dancing. I like going out with my friends and just not having a care in the world, just to dance. I like good music that has a beat. I will dance in the car, in my room and if my roommates not around in the living room. Its nice to just get up and move around. Now I do not claim to be a good dancer, by any means. I can look at other people in amazement and think “wow  I wish I could do that.” For instance Beyonce is one of my favorite artist and her ability to sing and dance blows me away every time.

I’ve always thought though what if my parents had put in me dance class when I was younger. I mean they put me in gymnastics I wonder why not dance class, though I’m pretty sure they never would have thought to put me in hip-hop class which is a shame. I think I might have been pretty good. These days I watch So You Think You Can Dance in amazement and wonder that what if question. I  love the show. I love the passion, the energy and the feeling these individuals give every performance. They have the ability to move the audience to tears. As a viewer I sit entranced by the beauty of the whole thing. These young people are using their gifts to their fullest ability. Its just amazing what they are capable of doing in such a short amount of time!

 

The Farm.

This is a place right down the road from my dad’s farm. Probably one of the easiest places to clear your mind. While I’m not the most patient at fishing I’m fine sitting out there just staring at nothing. Just listening to whatever is around me and thinking about NOTHING. Sometimes I just need that extra break from myself. I was only home, at the farm,  for probably a total an 1 hour this weekend but it was what I needed. It put me back on track to be me! It centered me and grounded me. Just what I needed!

Something else I can always use is some ‘giggles’ I highly recommend this website if you have time daily to check it out. http://hellogiggles.com/

90’s Pop Music Solves Every Problem.

When I was a sophomore in college my roommate had a big decision to make. When I say big I mean literally life altering. Either join the Army and stay in ROTC or finish out her year and be done. See this girl was a trooper (and she still inspires me everyday, like to run mini-marathons and the such) and this was a hard decision for her to make. She loved ROTC but signing up for the Army is a big deal. Not a decision she could just make on the spot no thoughts about it. We had discussed the pro’s and con’s, what she felt was right for her and what everyone else felt was right for her. Then finally, being the genius that I am decided she should look for signs. Hence, Ace of Base became the theme song of our room. If you had a problem, turn on “The Sign” and it would be obvious what needed to be done.

So here I am today. 5 years later. Listening to Ace of Base. Looking for the sign. The sign that tells me which job to go for, what are the right words to say and what general direction should my life take . I know this song isn’t going to magically tell me what to do but maybe those memories of being back in that dorm room and believing (ok we really didn’t believe the song had the answer but it helped us laugh and think through a tough decision) that I’m making the right decision here. See I’m going to be 25 this year and that terrifies me to a point. I’m terrified that I’m not where I should be at 25. That my life isn’t what I pictured at 25. That I haven’t had the level of success that I should at this age. But it also excites me because I believe we get better with age. That we get better everyday with every experience.

So here is to “The Sign” and if nothing else Ace of Base provided us with an amazing video!