Seems this is harder than I thought. I wrote a couple post ago that I was learning to live and let go. Well I’m definitely learning to live…the letting seems to be the hardest part. I have a hard time just realizing that sometimes people do not want to be in your life and it’s ok. That I didn’t do anything wrong. Some of my favorite life lessons come from Madea … This is probably the one that has hit closest to home for me. Because I hold on to everyone way to long and usually I end up hurt…
“If somebody wants to walk out of your life, let – them – go!”
“Some people are meant to come into your life for a lifetime, some for only a season and you got to know which is which. And you’re always messing up when you mix those seasonal people up with lifetime expectations.
I put everybody that comes into my life in the category of a tree. Some people are like leaves on a tree. When the wind blows, they’re over there… wind blow that way they over here… they’re unstable. When the seasons change they wither and die, they’re gone. That’s alright. Most people are like that, they’re not there to do anything but take from the tree and give shade every now and then. That’s all they can do. But don’t get mad at people like that, that’s who they are. That’s all they were put on this earth to be. A leaf.
Some people are like a branch on that tree. You have to be careful with those branches too, cause they’ll fool you. They’ll make you think they’re a good friend and they’re real strong but the minute you step out there on them, they’ll break and leave you high and dry.
But if you find 2 or 3 people in your life that’s like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that aren’t going nowhere. They aren’t worried about being seen, nobody has to know that they know you, they don’t have to know what they’re doing for you but if those roots weren’t there, that tree couldn’t live.
A tree could have a hundred million branches but it only takes a few roots down at the bottom to make sure that tree gets everything it needs. When you get some roots, hold on to them but the rest of it… just let it go. Let folks go.” -Madea via SugarPatch.com
So I gotta let go of the leaves. I think my issue is that I hold them to the lifetime people expectations. But I’m learning and I believe that is what my 20’s are all about. So I’ve got 5 more years … and I think I’ll be ok. I sometimes wonder if I am the only one who struggles like this, that struggles to let go when I know it’s best for me. Am I the only one? I find it hard to believe that I am…
I’ve lined up my next list of books for when I finish The Hunger Games. I think I’m going to start with Les Miserables by Victor Hugo. I won’t lie I mainly want to read this book because I’ve been on a HUGE One Tree Hill kick lately (it’s all Netflixs fault because they put season 1-8 on for instant streaming) and Hailey has one of her students read the book. One of favorite quotes come from that episode “He who does not weep does not see.” I don’t know why it resonates so much with me but it does. And I can’t wait to read the book.
The next book will be “A Confession” by Leo Tolstoy. I was watching a video the other day and Kelly Clarkson was talking about a book that she had read recently and she mentioned this one. She said she spent a lot of her 20’s searching for who she was and asking questions about her faith…which is kind of where I am right now. So I’m going to attempt to read this book. Not sure how it’ll turn out but I think it’s worth a try for me.
Enough deep stuff for the day. I’ll be back later this week with bridal shower food plans and ideas.